Sobriety is Self Love

The hottest nightclubs, the sickest parties, after hours clubs, and shot after shot after shot. Always chasing the next high – that’s what my life was like up until I made the choice to get sober. YOLO was my theme song and I thought I was living every day to the fullest, but I was wrong. It’s only now that I’ve chosen to live the sober life, that I get to enjoy every moment and live my most authentic self each day.

Have you ever been out drinking or nursing a nasty hangover and thought to yourself:

  • This just isn’t fun anymore
  • What am I doing with my life?
  • I don’t want to live like this anymore
  • Why can’t I drink normally?

Well, you’re not the only one. I felt the exact same way. You’re in the right place. On this site you’ll find my stories of hope, love, and strength. I share my resources and experiences in navigating the rocky road of sobriety. It’s not always easy, but it is ALWAYS worth it.

before and after drunk and sober

On the left: when I broke my nose after a night of drinking in 2012. On the right, me 6 months sober.

 

If I did it, so can you! 

3 thoughts on “Sobriety is Self Love

  1. Enjoyed your page, reminded me of when I stopped. It’s funny you go into meetings and you’ll see the person who’s living in their car, family left them, no money but they are happy cause they finally figured it out. Then you see the people who fight it the whole way rationalizIng everything, still thinking they can control it… Sad. To think that to figure it out you have to get to the bottom imagine never hitting it? Living a life so worthless and powerless to booze and so close to the solution but too stubborn to let it go. I remember I was driving home from seeing a friend in Georgia, I lived in Naples fl and I drove, and I was making good time and an oil tanker hit the overpass and they diverted all the highway traffic to the St Pete area. That’s where it happened I was stuck in traffic for hours detoxing nowhere to run, couldn’t goto the bathroom, no water, and I just started crying, that was it, that was my bottom, fucking crazy. Anyway keep doing your blog it helps people. :)

  2. This is awesome!

    To be honest with you, I never have had a problem not drinking, the problem I had was with the people who did drink. I started drinking alcohol from my early teens and I enjoyed the feeling, but truth is I couldn’t stomach hardly more than two or three ales. But, I soon realized I wasn’t like everyone else, I didn’t enjoy drinking like other people, in fact I didn’t really like it at all, I didn’t like the way people acted when they were drunk. This of course had a big impact on my social life, but it also gave me one hell of a strong realization. The only reason I cared about drinking at all was for social validation.

    I decided to give up drinking because it made me look good or feel “Confident” and decided to understand what kind of man I wanted to be. At 16, I decided to work out, improve my musicianship, break out of my shy guy shell and define who I really was and express it completely and fully, no matter who I was speaking to. I realized that I was more charismatic, real, honest, strong and exciting without the help of drugs (in this case, Alcohol).

    Four years later, my life is amazing, I just feel pumped for every single day, I have a beautiful partner, I actually enjoy my own company, live in a vibrant city, and have friends who accept that this is me, and want to be a part of my world, a world that just keeps getting better and better. Even though I’ve never been clubbing, your story does resonate with me, and I appreciate what you’re doing for others.

    Sobriety isn’t for everyone, but those who take the time to give it a shot, will realize just how exciting and exhilarating life can be.

    Thanks again!

    • Ooh!

      I was so busy talking about myself that I forgot to say what I actually meant to say! I think whats really inspiring about you and this blog is that you show people who are either recovering or simply choosing to be sober, how fun it actually is and how much more fun people can have.

      We make this weird connection that anything that’s bad for us is fun and exciting, and anything good or healthy for us boring and dull. Truth is, you can lead a fun and exciting life that most people only dream about, which is also healthy and beneficial.

      In truth, I regretted that I didn’t do half of the wild things other people around me did as a teenager, and regretted not binge-drinking, going to many parties etc. Because I thought I missed out on the amazing fun and the experience of doing that stuff. But, now I realize if I did, I wouldn’t have become who I am now.

      I’m always looking for ways to have more fun and grow, and reading some of your blog posts you’ve helped me realize just how much fun partying and such can be even whilst you’re sober and its not just meant for drinking and drugs. So, thanks :)

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