What it's Really Like to Wake Up Without Hangovers

What it's Really Like to Wake Up Without Hangovers

I’ve met some interesting people in my life. Some of the most interesting are those people who say they don’t get hangovers. It’s still kind of impossible for me to wrap my mind around this concept. I am still doubtful. Really? You drink all night long and don’t feel hungover at all the next day? “I just don’t get hangovers,” they’d say. Insert *mind blow* emoji here. How is that even a thing? I’d say to myself. 

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The Magic and Peace of a Dry Town

The Magic and Peace of a Dry Town

Nothing got me more pumped for summer than knowing I’d be spending a week of it down the shore. If you don’t know the phrase “down the shore,” than you probably aren’t from Philadelphia or the tri-state area. Anyone from the suburbs of Philly like me, knows that every summer starting on Memorial Day weekend, everyone heads to the jersey shore. The New Jersey coastline includes a line of shore towns starting with Atlantic City and working its way South all way down to Cape May. Families normally rent a house for a week or two during the summer at their favorite shore town and spend it lying on the sandy beaches, frolicking in the bitter cold Atlantic Ocean, and walking the boardwalk, riding bikes, and most likely, drinking.

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Sobriety as a Career Path

Sobriety as a Career Path

I think the inherent desire to help others has always been inside me. It’s probably why promoting alcohol and Monster energy drink, selling shoes and vacation packages, and being an administrative assistant were such unsatisfying jobs for me. They didn’t fill me up. I was always discontent with those jobs because I felt like something was missing. I felt like I was meant for more, but I never knew what. It’s true that I didn’t consider myself a writer until I got my first online writing gig for a website called Medical News Today, and even then, I was skeptical. I’m not really a writer. I just got hired to do a job and I’m doing it. That’s what I would say to myself. It wasn’t until I got sober that I was thrust into the arena of helping others, and at times I’ve still felt the struggle to find my career path in life.

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Punta Cana, We Meet Again

Punta Cana, We Meet Again

Thinking, writing, and talking about my last time drinking has been something that I’ve done quite a bit. But there’s nothing quite like being back in the exact place where it happened. A few weeks ago I traveled back to the place where I consumed alcohol for the very last time, Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. I went for one of my best friend’s weddings. When I stepped off the airplane and was hit with the hot, humid air of the caribbean, it all came back to me.

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How I Shed My Party Girl Identity

How I Shed My Party Girl Identity

Drinking for me was always associated with going out, with partying. Since I attended my first party, I knew being at a party was when I was most in my element. These started out as small house parties in high school at empty houses with loud music and alcohol, given to us by older friends or stolen from parents. After I went off to college and found a fake ID, parties got even more exciting. I quickly learned you could even have a party preference! My preference was going to places that had cheap shots and good music to dance to, plus a crowd of strangers to flirt with. My nights would start with raiding my closet for the perfect outfit.

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6 Years Sober

6 Years Sober

At this time last year I was announcing something pretty cool on this day. It was my book deal. A dream that I had, realized, and then as you all know, it was quickly dropped from my reach months later. This experience has overshadowed the last year of my life. First, it made the last year seem exciting, fulfilling and diligent, and then after the deal was lost, I felt a great sadness and grief, followed by a feeling of being stuck.

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She Recovers Sharing Circle Starts in Cape Coral

She Recovers Sharing Circle Starts in Cape Coral

Our first She Recovers Sharing Circle in Cape Coral will be held on May 12, 2019 at 6pm at the Center for Spiritual Living. Our sharing circle is a safe place for self-identified women to come and talk about challenges in their lives, receive support, and connect with others who have, or have had, similar experiences. We hope to provide a place where women feel seen, heard, accepted, and uplifted.

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What is a Recovery Coach?

What is a Recovery Coach?

As I shift into this new identity of mine as a Recovery Coach, it’s no surprise that I am often met with confused stares or various questions via discovery call, email, and direct message. People normally ask me what’s a Recovery Coach? Or how is a Recovery Coach different from a sponsor? What do Recovery Coaches do? What are you discovering in a discovery call? Does a Recovery Coach get you sober? Why do you charge money?

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Sobriety is an Act of Women's Empowerment

Sobriety is an Act of Women's Empowerment

Women are drinking more and are feeling the effects of their drinking sooner. We are also targeted more than men. The mommy wine culture and glamorization of alcohol in the media are proof of that. Everywhere we turn there are tampon-shaped flasks to sneak alcohol into public places, shower wine glass holders, and faux-feminist booze like Jane Walker. Spare me. When I was still drinking Natty Light and good old Vladimir vodka in the plastic handle container were good enough for me. Old me probably would have loved that Big Alcohol is now playing to my feminist agenda.

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Strong Woman?

Strong Woman?

A week ago today was International Women’s Day and just like many women across the world I made a social media post about feeling grateful and empowered to be surrounded by so many strong women in my life. And it’s true I am grateful. I would not be the woman I am today if it weren’t for the constant inspiration and support of so many women. Most of the time I also feel strong. Normally I feel like one of those strong women who is inspiring and empowering others, but lately, I haven’t.

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10 Well-Known People of Color in Recovery

10 Well-Known People of Color in Recovery

Black History Month is an annual celebration recognized in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom in honor and remembrance of important people, experiences, and events from African-American history.  The prominent and important history of African-Americans is too-often overlooked and this is especially true when it comes to addiction and recovery. When you browse the internet, there isn’t much information on the unique struggles of people of color in recovery, or articles that speak specifically to this demographic. In order to empower people of color who are in, or seeking recovery, it’s important that they can identify with the people and experiences that are being talked about. In honor of Black History Month, I’ve put together a list of well-known people of color who battled a substance use disorder and found recovery. 

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My 2018 Year in Review

My 2018 Year in Review

Three hundred and sixty-five days of this life have come and gone again and just like all the other years, this one felt like it went at the speed of light. 2018 felt like it was filled with a lot of pain, but I know it also had some fun and some accomplishments. And although I shed a lot of tears, it wasn’t all bad. I try really hard not to let the pain of a year overshadow the whole thing and that’s why I wanted to make a list of things I’m proud of this year.

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Giving Back: Your Holiday Guide to Recovery Charities

Giving Back: Your Holiday Guide to Recovery Charities

Last year I provided a holiday gift guide for the people in your life who are sober. This year I wanted to get a list together of organizations who need your help and your money. When we reach the end of year it’s a good time to think about what organizations’ missions mean a lot to us and how we can give back to their causes. There’s nothing simpler than sending a $5 or $10 donation that takes no longer than 30 seconds. Here is a short list of organizations that are doing great things. If you’re looking to send a holiday gift, consider a donation to these groups.

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How the Grinch Stole Christmas Because of his Childhood Trauma

How the Grinch Stole Christmas Because of his Childhood Trauma

Last weekend I saw The Grinch at the movie theater with my nephews and family. Everyone knows the time old tale of the Dr. Suess book, How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Grouchy green guy steals Christmas from innocent town in an attempt to make his own pain go away. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work, and the kind hearts of the Whos in Whoville show the Grinch that the spirit of Christmas comes from their hearts and not material goods.

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A Mother's Love

A Mother's Love

A mother’s love. They say there’s nothing like it and they’re right. A mother has a unique role when it comes to having a child with a substance use disorder. For my mother it was something she was used to dealing with, but not with a child. My mother has always been a caretaker. Of her siblings, her husband, her father, then her mom, and of course my sister and I. When I was in high school my mother and I fought a lot. We butted heads about pretty much everything. She didn’t like that I wanted to stay out late, drive my car around past 11:30pm (the curfew for underage drivers in Pennsylvania), fraternize with new groups of boys every other week, and be a generally rebellious teen.

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Just like in Addiction, in Sobriety Nothing Goes as Planned

Just like in Addiction, in Sobriety Nothing Goes as Planned

In a phone call on Friday I was asked to, “Please provide an example of a time in your life when things did not go as planned and how you handled it.” I laughed and said, “Well that’s my entire life. Nothing in my life has ever gone as planned.” And it’s true. My life has always been that way. It has been incredibly hard not to think of the way my life has gone as a series of bad luck. I can’t tell you how many situations I’ve been, things I’ve been through, or setbacks I’ve experienced that have led me to think, am I even on the right path?

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Coming Home to Myself

Coming Home to Myself

As soon as I think I’ve got it all figured out, the universe assures me that I in fact, do not. Year 32 has been a gut punch, a year of highs that come with anxiety, and inexplicable lows that seemingly came out of nowhere. A year where I felt away from myself and close to myself at the same time. This morning on my 33rd birthday, I woke up at 6:20am and watched the sun rise. There is something about the peace and stillness of the morning that only belongs to me, that I love, even though waking up early is difficult for me. I wanted to see the sun rise because I wanted physical proof. I wanted proof that I am here, that I am alive, that this life I’m living is real. Without fail when I see the sun rise, the trees sway in the wind, or the ocean beat against the shore I feel like everything is going to be ok, that I am supported by the universe.

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5 Years of Freedom

5 Years of Freedom

It was just like any other weekend of my crazy 20-something life. Sun, sand, and a plethora of drinks in my hand. Only this time instead of staying up for days at a time and snorting cocaine off my house key in the bathroom, I was with my childhood best friends in the Dominican Republic. I had an incredible amount of anxiety before going on this trip and in a way, I feel like my body and soul already knew, and were preparing me for it. I was worried about doing the right thing and playing the part for everybody.

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Is Sobriety For Me?

Is Sobriety For Me?

Sobriety is only for drunks, junkies, and AA-goers. Sobriety is only for people who can’t control their alcohol intake and have no other choice but to quit. Those are the ideas I subscribed to my whole life. I think they are ideas that much of society still subscribes to. Other ideas society perpetuates? If you can’t drink alcohol something is wrong with you. Being called an alcoholic is worse than being called a criminal (or equal to?). Sobriety is lame. Sobriety is dumb. Sobriety is unobtainable. Sobriety is not for me.

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